I posted the following reply to a question in the Happiness Trap Online Interest Group on how to make a big move towards your values, when you can’t break it down into smaller goals:
“Thanks for asking this xxxxxx. I’m no expert in ACT, and not a therapist, just a guy for whom ACT has been a lifesaver (literally), so I should probably keep my mouth shut… but I’m not going to. 🙂 Plus, I have no idea what your situation is, so this is as probably more of a reminder to myself. I’ve never experienced something that couldn’t be broken down. Even when the depression flairs up and one of my values is to get to work, just asking myself “Can I move my right leg” will usually work. If I don’t want to shower, can I get undressed and turn the water on? From a non depression standpoint, if I’m afraid to ask for a raise – can I start walking toward my boss’s office? Again, caveats galore, and I hope I didn’t insult your situation with my petty examples.”
I thought it might help the poster, and it really was a good reminder to myself (I need a lot of reminders.)
It’s not the achieving of the goals that matter – it’s the movement toward them, no matter how small. Jim Rohn said:
“The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.” (source)
It’s the movement that makes us who we are. It’s how we vote for the person that we want to be.