Other People’s Comfort : Self-Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson : 015

Continuing our discussion of “Self-Reliance” by Ralph Waldo Emerson.


“The other terror that scares us from self-trust is our consistency; a reverence for our past act or word because the eyes of others have no other data for computing our orbit than our past acts, and we are loath to disappoint them.”


You don’t have to be who you’ve always been to please other people. You don’t have to stay fat to make them comfortable, or continue to drink alcohol just to fit in, or quit the warehouse job that you love because “you have so much more potential”.

Others want to know what to expect from you. It’s not your responsibility to make them comfortable. Your identity is your own, and you can keep it or work on changing it whenever you want.

And you don’t have to believe anything from “Self-Reliance” just because Ralph Waldo says so.

Discover yourself. Create yourself.

Give no fucks about the opinions of others.

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