Many times I express what I feel, and explain how I came to feel that way because I perceived the situation as being X. But my mate perceived the situation as being Y and so he determines that I was wrong to feel what I felt. I have difficulty, then, expressing that I was not wrong to feel what I felt — I simply felt what I felt based on my perception of events. What we feel is never wrong — what we perceive may be (or may not be).

As for cherry-picking, I am not finding it necessary to cherry pick through the Buddha’s teachings, but I sure am finding it necessary to cherry pick through what people tell me he taught.