New Resource Added: Simpleology

I’ve added a new resource to the Personal Development Resources page:

Simpleology – Get it done.  Faster.

I used Simpleology a while back, but got away from it for a few years.  I’m blown away by how much it has grown.

I’m currently going through what it calls “White Belt Training”, and can honestly say that, along with the early rising, I’m getting more done than I have in a while.

Since I’m a member of Simpleology, I’m also an affiliate, so in the interest of full disclosure if you sign up via the links on this website I’ll get a small commission on any purchases you make from there. (See my affiliate disclosure page for more info.)

But I don’t want to sell it to you.  I’d rather you try it out for yourself (which is free) and see for yourself.

Simpleology – Get it done.  Faster.

And let me know what you think!

 

Hitting Your Targets

So much has been written about goals: how to set them, what kind of goals to set, how to write them down, how often to review them.

I think it’s much easier to look at goals as targets (because that’s what they are).  And we are archers, pointing our arrows at those targets.

Once we’ve set up the target, we aren’t done.  We’ve got to get our bow and arrow ready.  And once that’s done, we’ve got to let our arrows fly.

Once the arrow has been loosed, there’s nothing more we can do.  Depending on the amount of training we’ve done, and the amount of preparation that we’ve put into it, either the arrow is going to hit the target or it isn’t.

If it doesn’t, there’s really only two choices we have – try it again, or not try it again.

We can bitch and moan about the wind, that our arm jerked just before letting go of the arrow, that the sun was in our eyes.  All that is fine.  But if we want to hit the target, we’ve got to pick up another arrow and shoot again.

We don’t have to.  We can decide that we don’t want to hit that particular target (that’s perfectly legitimate), but why waste time bitching and moaning?  Just move on to another one.

Often, though, “I didn’t really want it” is nothing more than sour grapes.  At least be honest with yourself – you do want it, but you aren’t willing to pick up and try again.

If you have targets that you’ve let go because of sour grapes, I’d encourage you to pick back up and shoot again.  And again.  And again.

The honor is in the action, not just the hitting of the target itself.

 

 

Personal Development Top Five – Week Ending 4/3/2016

Welcome to this week’s Personal Development Top Five – a regular feature of the top five personal development articles that I’ve come across over the past seven days.

If you’ve got any suggestions for next weeks edition of the Personal Development Top Five, shoot me a link via my contact page.

This Instant

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life.”

My parents had that embroidered and framed in the dining room in the home I grew up in. It’s an awesome statement if you really think about it.  You can think of it as a silly platitude or really take it to heart.

I’d even bring it to the point of “This moment is the first moment of the rest of your life.”

Maybe even “This instant is the first instant of the rest of your life.”

It’s entirely possible to “start your day over.” No day is ever ruined. Even if in the middle of the day, everything starts going wrong, you can stop for a moment, take a deep breath, and start again.

Are you really going to let something as small as your past get in the way?

Personally, I’m at the point in my life where there is more behind me than in front of me. At least, that’s true according to the data from the social security administration. But that doesn’t matter. I’ve learned a lot in the years I’ve been breathing, and I can bring all of that experience to bear on the next X number of years.

The next X number of years, starting with this moment, this instant, this now. What I do now is what will determine just how these last years of my life will go.

This instant is the first instant of the rest of your life. How will you use it?

How To Improve The Quality of your Life Right Now

One of the most useful things that I learned from Tony Robbins is that the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our questions.

So what questions are you asking yourself?  Do you ask yourself, “Why don’t I have any energy?”  Maybe a better one is “How can I have more energy?”

“Why do I fail at everything?”  How about “How can I succeed?”

“Why doesn’t anyone like me?”  Try “How can I be more likeable?”

It’s pretty simple to reframe any question that we ask ourselves into something more powerful that will have a positive impact on our lives.  As a basic framework, anything that asks “Why does X suck” can be changed to “How can I make X suck less.”

And the next time you find yourself asking “What’s wrong with me?” try countering it with “What’s right with me?”

If the answer is “Nothing!” (well, then you’re just lying to yourself) then how about “What could be right with me if I wanted it to be.”

Simple.  So try it today.

And let me know how it goes.

 

Personal Development Top Five – Week Ending 3/27/16

I’ve decided to create a regular feature of the top five personal development articles that I’ve come across each week.  There is literally a ton (give or take a few pounds) of excellent information out there on personal development, but there’s also a whole bunch of not so great stuff.  These are the articles I’ve found to be in the first category.

creative commons by marfis75 on flickr CC-BY-SA
creative commons by marfis75 on flickr CC-BY-SA

So without further ado:

If you’ve got any suggestions for next weeks edition of the Personal Development Top Five, shoot me a link via my contact page.

 

Personal Development Resources – New Page Added

Just a heads up that I’ve added a new page to the site: Personal Development Resources

This will be a curated list of the best resources that I’ve found when it comes to personal development.

It will not be a link dump.  I’m going to keep it as clean and short as possible.  Anything that goes on there will be something that I’ve personally used and that comes from a reputable source.

I’ve started it out with just four links:

Darren Daily – Daily Mentoring for Achievers

A 5 day a week, max 5 minute email to both teach you something and give you a boost for the day.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

My current go-to personal development book.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Always a classic.  I’m working on reformatting the text version on Sacred Texts to PDF and Kindle formats.

Tony Robbins’ Daily Magic (from Get the Edge)

Still my favorite audio to start the day with.
—If you have any suggestions for the page, feel free to let me know!  I’ll be honest, though – it’s going to have to be pretty amazing to make it on the page.  As I said, it’s not a link dump or exchange.  Only the best of the best will get on there.

Four Things That Got Me Back to a Morning Ritual

A few days ago, I started working on my morning ritual again.  It’s really amazing how easy it is to stop doing something that is so helpful.  Upon reflection, there are some real reasons that I did stop, and some things that I’m doing differently this time to ensure that I keep it up.

Cutting Back

I don’t have to spend 2 hours on it.  I was really overloading myself.  If I did 10 minutes of meditation one morning, then I’d have to spend 15 the next morning or I failed.  If I didn’t do the full Tony Robbins Daily Magic audio for the exercise portion (over an hour and a quarter just for that!) I considered myself a failure.  I’m much more successful at committing to smaller chunks of time and getting a much bigger return on my investment.

Getting Involved 

Instead of just lurking, I got involved in the Miracle Morning Facebook Group.  It’s an amazing group of people who provide some real, positive feedback to one another and support each other on this journey.  Just scrolling and liking posts isn’t enough – I had to put myself out there by actually posting, even if it’s just “Did my SAVERS today!”  Finding like minded people that you can share your trials and triumphs with is a great help, even if you are an introvert like me.

Taking It A Day At A Time

While I am committed to doing this every day for at least the next 30 days, I can’t think about that while I’m doing it.  It’s done today – that’s all that matters for now.  And I’m not using the checklist this time.  My brain tends to see any blank spots as failures, instead of noticing all of the filled in spots as successes.  That’s something I need to work on, but one habit at a time, one day at a time, is the name of the game.

Making It My Own

The SAVERS (Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, Scribing) are a great model, but that’s all they are.  A model.  I can do ESASRV if I want to, or just SAV, or whatever combination I want, in whatever order I want, and even add in new things if I want.  Different mornings can be different things.  For example, I tried out some Yoga for exercise a couple of days ago, and this morning I did some running.  The important thing is that I’m up and working at something that will help me to improve.

Have you had difficulty getting a morning routine together?  Or have you been wildly successful?  I’d love to hear about your trials and triumphs.  Feel free to use the comments here, or shoot me a tweet at @lymanreed.

Rewriting Reality Rationally

One of the books that I’m reading is “The Charisma Myth” by Olivia Fox Cabane.  To be perfectly honest, I didn’t want to read it, but it was the book selected by the Reddit Betterment Book Club, and I figured that it was a good idea to pick up something that I didn’t choose myself.

I sure am glad that I did.  My main objection to reading it was that I was expecting a bunch of tips and techniques to get people to like you.  That’s not something that interested me.  I want to be fully me, not some automaton that puts on a fake smile in order to have others do what they want.
I’m still working through it, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised that it isn’t that at all.  The book does contain a bunch of exercises, and the final objective is to become more charismatic, but it has nothing to do with being fake.
As a matter of fact, the exercises have to do with improving oneself, making yourself a more powerful, warm, and present person.  It’s all about developing what’s inside.
Developing my power, warmth, and presence?  That’s something I’d like to do.
While I’m only about halfway through the book, one of the exercises has already had an impact on my life so I wanted to share it now.  It’s the idea of Rewriting Reality.
Everything in our life is a perception.  And if we don’t know that truth about a situation, our perception becomes that truth to us.
The example she gives in the book is that of a person driving wildly on a freeway, cutting people off and almost hitting our vehicle.  Most of us would react to this with anger, which would decrease our own driving skills and maybe even make the rest of our day worse.
But what if that person had a child in the back seat who was choking and they were trying to get them to the hospital?  Would our reaction be a little different?
The point is, we don’t know.  And we aren’t going to make stuff up – but in just saying “Maybe there’s a real problem there” our physical, fight or flight reaction to stress will decrease and we will feel better.
On a personal level, I’m using this technique right now while looking for a job.  I thought I had a sure thing yesterday, but got the news that it wasn’t going to work out.  Yes, I spent some time in depression  – poor me, I’ll never get a job and end up penniless on the street.  But I know that it’s possible that this job could have been the worst thing that happened to me.  I could have ended up hating it, or working there could have blocked another, better opportunity.  What if not getting this job was the best thing that could have happened to me?
It may have been, it may not have been.  But since I have no idea, and can’t know at this point, why not just admit that I don’t know and keep moving forward?
It isn’t even necessary, as some people say, to choose to believe in the new reality.  Personally, I think that’s bordering on delusion.  But just knowing that we don’t know can be enough to get out of our negativity and move forward.
I know it has already worked for me.  And I hope that it’s helpful for you.

Live Your Life Now

via Cafepress

I know that it’s been beaten to death, but it’s really important to remember that this moment is all that you have.  It’s literally the only moment that you are living.

I was out for a walk this morning when some not so great thoughts about past mistakes started to surface.  Regret and disappointment started to build… but I was able to stop myself and remember just how true it is that I was only living that very moment.

It doesn’t matter what is going on right now – fun or not so fun, exciting or not so exciting.  It is literally all that we can experience.

When we are regretting the past or worrying about the future, we are still living in the now, but are putting stuff there that we don’t want to experience.

Do we want to bring regret, worry, and fear into my life?  I know I don’t.